Seeing Intentions & hidden agendas

If you want to understand someones intentions, all you have to do is listen. If you let them talk, they will tell you all sorts of things that give you a good indication of where their head is at. Once in awhile, asking a question like "who are you"? can produce some interesting results. Asking a question like "what makes you happy?", or "what do you value most in life?" are all great probing questions if you want to discover what the person is all about. Once they respond, then ask yourself "why did they say that?" Sometimes this isn't always an easy answer, but more often that not, you will find hidden messages in the conversation. Using your own intuition when meeting someone new is extremely important. It can be easy to convince yourself that the person you are talking to is someone other than who they are, if you have a hidden agenda yourself. For example, if I want something from someone, then I will tend to see the person in a more favorable light(the way I want to see them), instead of who they are actually portraying to be. It's important to pay attention to what others are saying. This type of concentration requires you to remove yourself (or your ego) from the conversation. All you have to do is be fully engaged with listening to the other party, and you'll discover all sorts of unconscious thoughts. It's a great exercise in letting go of your personal ego self(or character). You can do this exercise with yourself as well by listening to what you need to tell other people. I've caught myself a number of times saying things and wondering "why did I feel the need to express that?" You might find hidden needs, fears, wants, and desires that may be destructive on your current relationships. The more you are aware of yourself, the more you will be aware of in others.

Exerting Will

Words are cheap if there is no action behind them. It takes the will and strength of mind to put forth what you say. This is why many goals people make go to the way side because they are not exerting their will. If you want to complete any goal, the first step is to start. In other words, the first step is to exert your will. Don't judge what you are doing, just do it! Your actions will immediate begin to form something in reality, but patience is key. It is far too easy to say things without meaning them, or to say things without following up with action. The good news is; it's an easy habit to break if you stop this habitual flow. If you are intimidated to try something new, then take this amazing opportunity to step into your fear and face it wholeheartedly. Look forward to the chance to do this because you will grow in leaps and bounds. Exert your will and make that first baby step...it doesn't matter how far you go, because the next step you take you'll be even closer to where you want to be!

Can You See Yourself in Someone Else?

Things are always changing....we are always changing. More and more, people are realising that there is a unified existence living alongside our seemingly separate lives. This existence is available for our viewing at any point if we are willing to see it. When we open our eyes to the possibility of Oneness, we can fully experience ourselves through everything. Can you see yourself in someone else? Can you see that spark in their eyes that is you? When one wakes up to themselves, it is inevitable that they will begin to see their Self in others, in animals, in the world, and the universe. You will see that the smallest thing is only a smaller scale pattern of the largest thing. The universe loves patterns, and you'll see yourself in them as you go because you are made of them. Open your eyes to what you are and you will know who everything else is. You won't be afraid anymore because why would you be afraid of yourself? The only reason you 'need' an ego is to maintain your grasp of being separate from reality. Once you see the magnitude of existence, your ego will cease to exist. Feel free to release your false sense of self and be within the matrix of what is here and now and alive. Feel free to see me as I AM.
Nasmaste,
your eternal friend

The society we've created

I'm not going to hold back on this post, it's just something that I feel I honestly need to express. The fact is, since the beginning of the Industrial Age, man has been on a perpetual quest for progress. Granted, this "progress" has brought us some ingenious inventions such as the automobile and the steam engine. However, it has also changed the face of society through the invention of mass agriculture. We quickly converted from being a nomadic society, to being very stationary. This non nomadic lifestyle has resulted in the mass depletion of resources from the earth to the creation of towns and cities where we formed a civilization based on the accumulation of "things". This gradual evolution of society has created many problems; the biggest one being our obsession with always needing more. Our constant need for material goods has created things like mega malls, superstores, fast food, casinos, and 24 hour shopping. All so we can get our fix. Where do we draw the line? At what point do we say, I have enough? Or is this whole game about always having more? The inspiration for this post was from something I read today that struck me; there are people living underground in the flood tunnels of Las Vegas. They live down there, they scavange, and they survive off of societys leftovers. It may be easy to step inside your big cozy home in the suburbs and forget about the starving people downtown, but you can't escape it forever. What we resist will persist, and eventually the reality we don't want to accept comes to stare us in the face. As a life coach, my job isn't to tell you the world is all pink roses....my job is to help to awaken to yourself. This means that you may see some things you don't necessarily want to see; some things you deliberately hid from your existence so that you didn't' have to accept them. I'm prepared to walk with you as we see everything...not just the positive, but the negative, and neither. Once you accept both as reality, then you can just be.
Well, this was good to get out there....and I see the importance of surrendering to it all in order to see clearly.
Thanks, till next time!

Relationships are mirrors

You've probably heard before that relationships are much like mirrors. If you are unsure of how this applies in your life, let me explain it this way; Our actions ripple forth towards the people we interact with thereby create consequences which reverberate right back to us. Or to put it in its simplest terms, "every action has an equal and opposite reaction". We can't help but effect the world with our every word, action , or inaction. The question is, what kind of ripple do we want to create? The most important thing about all this is that we understand our involvement in creating. You may have a bad day and think that you can hide it from the world and affect nobody. However, even if you were to stay at home and not interact at all, your energy still flows into reality...and your action (or inaction for that matter) has an equal and opposite reaction back to you . Relationships with others always start with yourself (not others). For example; If you need to be liked and you don't have much respect for yourself, then you will attract people who will find ways to use you. If you need to feel better than others, then you will attract those who you can look down on. If you manipulate or distort your reality to get what you want or to live up to "the status quo", then you will never have true clarity or presence in relation to others. But, if you enjoy your own company and you have a healthy understanding of who you are, then you will attract those who reflect yourself. Your true self is waiting within you whenever you're are ready...the closer you are to Self, the more you will see it in others, and the more you will attract those who see themselves too. Its all about remembering who you are in a relationship with.